How to Accept Coping with DeathCoping with death is a day-by-day process. There is no manual or pill that makes it easier. Running from the pain and loss of a loved one is the worst thing you can do. I know this from my own experience. I avoided facing my mother's death by keeping as busy as I could. 
I was always running - to do something. I even took a job in a field I had never worked before – writing as a correspondent for a local newspaper. As a country correspondent, I did a lot of running after stories. It was good for a period of time. Then it hit me! Believe me, the longer you avoid feeling the pain and sense of loss, the worse coping with death becomes. When my partner Wally died three months after my sister , I felt numb, confused, and exhausted. I didn’t know what to do next. I wandered around in my nightgown for days feeling as if everything was surreal. Each one of us handles the situation differently but you may experience feelings of disbelief, anger, depression, longing, and after a certain length of time – acceptance.
As you are coping with death you need to be aware of your emotions and feelingsMethods of Coping with Grief1) Some may reach out to friends and community, whereas others may withdraw into themselves 2) Others may become busy as I did. 3) It is helpful to express your emotions and feelings to your friends, a support group or a professional. It’s important to be aware of your emotions and to release them in a way that is comfortable to you. 4) Some may want to deal with their grief by self destructive behavior such as drinking, drugging, cutting and so on. These behaviors will only mask your pain temporarily and will prolong your grief as your emotions build inside of you. 5) A method that I used, which was very comforting for me, was writing. This morning practice led to my spiritual journal and eventually to my first book – that "Damn Voice Again, Communication from Beyond" which I plan to make available in e-book format. You may not realize it at the time but whenever something terrible happens in your life, something good can be created. A note of caution: If you have suicidal thoughts, it’s imperative that you talk to someone that you trust about your feelings.
It’s important to take care of yourself while you are coping with death by grieving.Taking Care of YourselfTry and be with others as much as possible, and if you can, participate in family rituals such as a funeral or memorial service to honor the person who died. Express your emotions, if you feel like crying, do so. Crying is very healing and it will take as long as if takes; there is no time limit on crying. Talk about your feelings to others if you can, but don’t worry if you can’t. It’s difficult to express deep pain and emptiness. 
Exercise as much as possible, it’s good to get your adrenaline going and to move your energy even if it’s only walking. I used to take long walks with my dogs while talking to my loved ones at the same time.If you can, join a support group, or you can start writing a journal as I did. It was my form of therapy and it helped me to get through each day. Yes, you will get over this intense period of pain and sense of loss, and it will take as long as it takes. This depends on your relationship with the one who died, and what your karmic relationship was. Remember that you will always hold a special place in your heart for the one you are grieving. death of a parent
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