How To Accept Coping With Emotions

Coping with emotions is a learning process. There is no pill that makes it easier.

Running from stress, anxiety, anger, pain and loss is the worst thing you can do.

You can learn from your experiences once you are able to open your mind and identify your negative emotions.

For example, I avoided facing my mother's death. Learn how I coped with death of a parent by keeping as busy as I could,but was the worst thing I could do.

Writing as a correspondent for a local newspaper was my antidote at the time. Since I lived in the country, I did a lot of chasing after stories.

It was good for a period of time. Then it hit me!

Believe me, the longer you avoid coping with emotions, it becomes overwhelming when your emotions finally burst.

You never know how yo are going to feel when a loved one dies. Then my partner died three months after my sister, I felt numb, confused, and exhausted. I wandered around in my nightgown for days feeling totally unaware of my surroundings. Read about my experience in recent deaths. You can feel the same amount of sadness in the loss of your pet. Read about pet death.

This overwhelming feeling of sadness can occur when relationships end, or you can feel tremendous anger or rejection. Go to healing a broken heart.

Each one of us handles our emotions differently. By avoiding them you may eventually feel depressed which usually happens when you turn your anger inwards towards yourself. Read repressed anger.

Suppression of your emotions could also lead to physical pain where your doctor cannot find any causes or your pain or illness.

Methods Of Coping With Emotions

1) Try reaching out to friends and community instead of withdrawing into yourself.

2) You may become busy as I did, but this only works for a certain time period and you need to be aware of your actions.

3) It is helpful to express your emotions and feelings to your friends, a support group or a professional. As you become aware of your emotions, try to release them in a manner that is comfortable to you.

4) Some or you may want to deal with your sense of loss by self destructive behavior such as drinking, drugging, cutting and so on. These behaviors will only mask your pain temporarily and will prolong your your negative emotions as they fester inside of you.

5) My method, which was very comforting for me, was writing.

This morning practice led to my spiritual journal and eventually to my first book – "That Damn Voice Again, Communication from Beyond" which is on sale on my website.

You may not realize it at the time but whenever something terrible happens in your life, something good is created. My book led to the creation of this website.

A note of caution: If you have suicidal thoughts, it’s imperative that you talk to someone that you trust about your feelings and to seek professional help.

Taking Care Of Yourself

Express your emotions, if you feel like crying, do so. Crying is very healing and it will take as long as if takes; there is no time limit on crying.

Talk about your feelings to others if you can, but don’t worry if you can’t. If expressing how you feel is foreign to you, don't give up. You need to keep doing it. Also, learn to be gentle with yourself.

If you can, join a support group where you feel safe and can talk about your intimate feelings. Start writing a journal as I did. It was my form of therapy and it helped me to get through each day.

You will get over your anxiety of expressing your emotions. If you are getting over pain and loss as in the case of death, it will take as long as it takes. It depends on your relationship with the one who died, and what your karma was between the two of you. Read karmic soul mates.

Remember that you will always hold a special place in your heart for the one you are grieving.

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