Gay Male With Feelings For Someone Who Fears Other's Opinions
I´m a gay male and I started having feelings for my male co-worker (whom I met a couple months ago). I'm 22 and he is 20. He says he's straight, but I had the feeling he wasn´t. At work most of us are gay, but he always seemed very confident about himself.
A friend of mine used her pendulum and asked it if he is interested in guys, and it said "yes". She also asked if he is interested in me, and it said "yes" also.
The thing is that my self esteem is really low, so believing in those kind of answers is kind of hard for me.
I got my own pendulum last week, and started asking about him. And it says that he is interested in me, but he is afraid of people knowing about it because of his "reputation". He doesn´t have any problem with his family or close friends knowing about it in the future, but he´s afraid of what other people can say about him.
It also says that he thinks I´m having feelings about him, and that he really wants me to tell him that I like him. But it also says that being very direct with him is not gonna work, maybe because I'm gonna scare him.
Do you have any piece of advice about any kind of questions I should ask, to make this situation any more clearer or understanding how should I proceed?