Gay Male With Feelings For Someone Who Fears Other's Opinions


I´m a gay male and I started having feelings for my male co-worker (whom I met a couple months ago). I'm 22 and he is 20. He says he's straight, but I had the feeling he wasn´t. At work most of us are gay, but he always seemed very confident about himself.

A friend of mine used her pendulum and asked it if he is interested in guys, and it said "yes". She also asked if he is interested in me, and it said "yes" also.

The thing is that my self esteem is really low, so believing in those kind of answers is kind of hard for me.

I got my own pendulum last week, and started asking about him. And it says that he is interested in me, but he is afraid of people knowing about it because of his "reputation". He doesn´t have any problem with his family or close friends knowing about it in the future, but he´s afraid of what other people can say about him.

It also says that he thinks I´m having feelings about him, and that he really wants me to tell him that I like him. But it also says that being very direct with him is not gonna work, maybe because I'm gonna scare him.

Do you have any piece of advice about any kind of questions I should ask, to make this situation any more clearer or understanding how should I proceed?

Thank you!

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Mar 25, 2012
Gay Male With Feelings For Someone Who Fears Other's Opinions
by: Tanya Tkach, Webmaster

Gay Male,

I do not feel that any more questions are going to help this situation. You have to deal with it straight up. First it is important to release your low self esteem. Read my releasing technique. You can use this technique for releasing all kinds of negative and toxic feelings and situations.

Secondly, you have to trust your intuition, and know that you really want an intimate relationship with the person.

Thirdly, you need to have a chat with him over a cup of coffee. It is important to be able to talk about your feelings with this person and if he runs, then he's not ready. Then you need to accept where he is at and not take it personally.

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