Healing from Infidelity will Make You a Stronger Person

To start healing from infidelity, it is important to acknowledge, and to understand all of the emotions that you are feeling - shock, rage, hurt, intense sadness, disillusionment, and devastation.

Actually, these emotions are similar to PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) syndrome.

The infidelity may cause you to feel rejected and unloved, which will affect your self-esteem and the sense of who you really are.

It is imperative that you talk about your feelings to someone who is trusting and will listen, perhaps even a therapist or counselor . It is also important to cry when you feel like crying. This is the beginning of the healing process.

If you are in a marriage, you may also feel as if you are being taken for granted, unloved, resentful and ignored. I will not talk about marriage counseling and what you both need to do to resolve your marriage. This advice is about healing yourself – you are the one who feels betrayed, intensely angry and perhaps even depressed.

It is very important to release your anger and your feelings of justification for feeling angry. The importance of feeling or being right and the partner wrong is not going to heal your emotions.

It is necessary to release your anger because holding onto it will only make you feel more miserable. Not only will your negative emotions distance you from your loved ones and friends, carrying anger also sabotages your emotional, mental and physical health. Feeling angry, depressed and disappointed prevents you from feeling joy!

To start healing from infidelity, you need to forgive the one who betrayed you.

To forgive the one who betrayed you is the only key to your happiness and joy. You may think that by forgiving the wrong-doer, what he or she did is right. Forgiveness is not about what is right or wrong; forgiveness is the gift to yourself.

Forgiveness does not mean that you will forget what the other did to you, or that you give up your soul. You will never forget the circumstances of being betrayed but once you truly forgive from your heart, you will feel better – happier, lighter, more loving and it will draw others and more love into your life.

I know forgiveness takes great strength, but in the long run it is much easier to forgive than to hold onto your anger and your grudge. Holding onto your anger takes tremendous energy and will leave you feeling exhausted, depressed and miserable. You are only hurting yourself.

Remember, forgiveness will set you free!

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