Before you can learn how to control anger, you need to be aware of your reactions and your emotions, and to realize that you are angry. If you are, this is a warning signal.
If you avoid acknowledging that you have anger problems, the pain underlying your anger will only fester and cause illness in your body causing many health problems later on.
"Anger is the most dangerous emotion." "You will kill yourself one day at a time if you allow anger into your life! " Said Dr. Charles Stanley from
I have been advised through my spiritual guide, due to my ability of hearing voices, to write about anger since it is a very debilitating emotion that affects most people in the world today.
You may not even realize that you are angry because you are reacting to situations.
When you feel sensations in your body such as in your stomach or heart or neck and shoulders, or even have migraine headaches, you need to recognize these signals and go within and see why you are having these sensations.
For example, when angry some people may hunch their shoulders, or tense their jaw or brow. At this time the body is telling you something. You may think that you are not angry but your body is telling you otherwise.
Is this you, screaming and yelling when angry?
Your emotions are a part of who you are, and they are there to help you to discover yourself.
We spend years learning a craft, and studying for a university degree in a specialized field, but we know so little about ourselves, and the underlying causes of our behaviour.
1) How To control Anger by Realizing That Anger Is A Signal of Distress
Before you can claim victory over anger, you have to ask yourself these very important questions. I know they are difficult, but you need to do this if you want to tackle your anger, write them down and also write down your responses:
If you are learning how to control anger, it is a signal that you or the one who is angry is in trouble and in pain, you must realize that there is serious hurt underlying the anger.
What is important, this is difficult the first time, is to stop yourself immediately when you're at the boiling point, before you say anything.
2) How To control Anger Through Meditation
How to Meditate - Try meditating, taking yoga or a low-impact exercise class which will teach you how to meditate and to listen to your body.
In yoga for instance you will learn simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, that will help calm down angry feelings.
Or, find a book that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can use them in any stressful situation.
Here are simple steps you can try that will prepare you for meditation: read one minute meditation
3) How To Control Anger by Changing Your Thoughts
For instance, instead of telling yourself,
"That person drives me crazy", "I’m going to get even", say
"This is frustrating and I have a right to be angry, and it's understandable that I'm upset about it, but it's not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it."
Once you change your mind set when you're unable to get what you want, you will then experience normal reactions such as frustration, disappointment, and hurt, not anger.
Some angry people use anger as a shield to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn't mean the hurt goes away. If this is the case, you will need to explore your reasons for the hurt that’s underlying your anger and then to release it.
You can also get help in learning how to control anger through counseling.
4) How To Control Anger by Solving Problems
In this situation, do not focus on finding the solution, but rather on how to handle and face the problem immediately.
Some things are just out of our hands, and at this point it is a good policy to just "let go and let God" handle the situation.
5) How To control Anger with Better Communication Skills
For example, when you are in a heated discussion, slow down and think through your responses. In learning how to control your anger, it's important not to jump to conclusions and say the first thing that comes into your head, think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.
6) How To Control Anger Using Humor
Silly humor can help defuse anger in a number of ways, it can help you get a more balanced perspective. When you get angry and call someone a name or refer to them in some imaginative phrase, stop and picture what that word would literally look like and this will diffuse your anger and will help to ease tense situation.
I understand and know that this is difficult. I’ve had personal experience with doing this practice. You may feel like crying – that is okay. Crying is good! It is healing. This is a critical point in your healing process so don’t try and stop the tears.
It is very necessary to cry if you feel like crying. That’s why it is important to walk away and be alone with your emotions. No one may understand what you are feeling or going through at this time. If you have to, lock yourself in the bathroom or wherever for privacy.
If it is necessary, take anger management courses in learning how to control anger. But at some point, it is important to go within, and to feel the pain or disappointment or jealousy or whatever is causing the anger, otherwise your anger will lead to illness. When you start to feel where anger or another toxic emotion is hurting in your body, the healing process begins.
Anger is the outwards manifestation of what is going on within yourself, and it is a warning. Remember
Remember, your emotions are a gift from God, it is your choice what you do with them. If you don’t start doing your inner work, you may suffer some debilitating disease in the future.
We are here on earth to learn our lessons, and for those who have anger problems, it is one of your lessons. The cause of your anger will keep festering until you release the pain underlying your anger.
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