What Causes Repressed Anger
Anger turned inwards becomes repressed anger, and the reality is that anyone who is angry with his or herself does not realize it. This form of anger is dangerous. It can lead to depression self abuse or self injury, and suicide. If you become angry easily, you may be carrying repressed anger. I will describe what led to my buried feelings of anger which I didn't realize I was carrying. In my case, I can remember as a child feeling that I wished I were dead. It resulted from the rejection I felt both from my mother and father (who separated when I was three), and my older sisters. Because my mother was so busy trying to make ends meet for three children and herself, she had no time for me.
The feelings of rejection and lack of love resulted from being pushed away by my mother and my older sisters who didn’t have the time to spend with me. I was always often told that I was a “brat” and a “nuisance”. For many years, my nickname was “brat”. This led to feelings of anger and rejection. Since I was not allowed to express my emotions to anyone in my family, I buried them. There were times I wished I had other parents, ones who loved me. When my mother told me that if I didn’t behave she was going to put me elsewhere, I often thought maybe that’s not such a bad idea. My feelings of rejection often led to thoughts of suicide.
Apparently as a young girl, I appeared solemn, quiet and shy. My teachers would often ask me what was wrong. A certain younger teacher, whom we all loved as kids, contacted my mother about my problem. I was sent to a psychologist and then a psychiatrist. At the time I did not feel comfortable talking about my angry feelings towards my mother which I felt guilty about to a stranger.Visits to a PsychiatristAll the angry and rejected feelings I experienced as a child were forgotten. Eventually, these blocked and repressed emotions caused many physical pains in my body which I didn’t realize resulted from buried emotions of my childhood. These blockages were in my stomach, digestive organs, upper and lower back. I had also built many barriers around my heart in order not to feel the emotional pain of rejection which later resulted in hyper tension and anxiety. The point of explaining my experiences is to help you understand how buried negative feelings can cause much pain and illness in your body. Through my personal healing experiences, I am able to help others. Once you realize what is causing your pain, you are able to heal by releasing all the negative emotions within, and by forgiving yourself and others. Once you have completed this process, your body has the capacity to heal itself. Anger can be released but not by dumping it on someone else. You do not have to carry pain and suffering endlessly. Heal your emotions; heal your body. Return from repressed anger to anger in a relationship
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